30 Day guide, Surviving DV one step at a timeI am survivor of domestic abuse. I am someone you pass in the street , the supermarket or the school run, I walk among you and you have no idea.

I am wanting to help YOU; the you too scared to leave, the you that’s hiding at home, the you (who perhaps like me) didn’t even know that what I was suffering was domestic violence.

Not until I happened to read someone else’s blog that so accurately described the relationship I was in and subsequent abuse I’d suffered for years, did I feel validated and believed.

I am wanting to write about experiences ; some of my own and some of others in the hope you can share yours too.

I feel very passionate about helping others affected by family violence of any kind, and most especially in our community.

It is my hope that by sharing stories ,providing a safe place to be heard, that you will not feel so isolated and alone.

It is my goal that maybe one day you may feel like you can take that next step towards a life without violence, to start a new journey towards recovery.

I feel so grateful, very recently (by chance or by fate) I found myself invited to join Wollumbin Family Support Inc.

These are trained professionals, passionate volunteers and generous people from our local community, who would love to know how to help you.

You can call me Clara.

I could list percentages and statistics on the amount of known domestic violence in Australia, in NSW, and specifically our pocket in the Caldera. But I think you’ve heard enough numbers in the news, and lately there has been a saturation of horror stories via social media, for good reason I might add.

But I’m not sure I would find that helpful to know when trying to contemplate the terrifying decision to leave an abusive relationship, I’m actually grateful I was oblivious to know the epidemic we’re in when I left my abuser.

“What would you find helpful when trying to contemplate the terrifying decision to leave an abusive relationship?”

Very good question. I’ve been asking myself that in retrospect. I don’t think for a minute that I’m an expert on DV, my experiences will be very different from yours and the next person.

Now I like to call myself a survivor, I don’t want to be known or labelled as just another victim.

It is not my intention to upset any readers, I am not a fan of ”shock and awe” so I will not be describing events in any graphic details or using strong language.*@#! if totally fine though.

I do encourage you to be kind and respectful to yourself first and to others in this forum.

I use humour occasionally (sometimes with a hint of sarcasm) but this is not out of disrespect of the serious discussion we are sharing, more I find it a successful coping strategy.

I want to inspire you with hope and support , instead of focusing on the fear.

I want to share some of my journey with you , as best as I can explain , as authentic as I can be.

I am here to say YOU ARE NOT ALONE and you’ll read that many times over.

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What is “Finding Me”?

The “Finding Me” support group is a facilitated recovery based program. Our upcoming program will be running for 12 weeks. “Finding Me” aims to support women to recover from domestic violence by providing a safe, non-judgmental and inclusive environment where women can access information, support and connection.

What does “Free to be Me” aim to achieve?

  • A therapeutic environment in which survivors of domestic and family violence work through a 12 week program led by supportive facilitators.
  • Mutual support and respect amongst the group.
  • An awareness and knowledge of women’s basic rights.
  • Self-education that provides knowledge to reduce the risk of engaging in future toxic relationships.
  • A safe and supportive space that encourages participants to share their personal experiences.
  • A sense of connection to others who have had similar domestic/family experiences.
  • An opportunity to have existing beliefs about relationships challenged and reframed.
  • Increase in self-esteem, self-determination and empowerment of participants.

To find out more about our Recovery programs, email us at wollumbinfsi@gmail.com